Single Parenting

Last week was February break for most schools in New England.  My family was very excited as we had booked a trip to Orlando for the week.  We go every couple of years and stay at a great hotel, swim in the pool and do day trips including a Disney park if we can.  It’s usually a quick trip to break up winter, get some much-needed Vitamin D and family connection.  We are very fortunate that we can do this.  As excited as everyone was, circumstances happen (you know, that sometimes-messy-thing called “life”)…..and just like that I became a single mom.  My husband and I are not together.  I am heartbroken, mourning the person that I have always considered to be my soul mate, angry at choices that have been made and a terrible infectious family disease that I have been gaslighted by for too long.  (A friend coined this term which I think is an accurate description).  I’m also real tired of being quiet.  Everything is not fine.

Since this blog is about my empowerment and creativity, I’m going to keep writing about both, even if my world is falling apart temporarily.  Sewing and being creative ease my soul  and there’s going to be a lot of selfish sewing for me.  I’m all about self-love right now.

Getting back to our Florida trip, I decided to take my children solo.  I guess I didn’t really think things through and just plowed forward.  We didn’t make it to Disney World but we did try Disney’s Animal Kingdom which was fun!  Did I mention that the first night we were there my daughter finally caught the stomach bug (and here I was thinking we were the only family left in our town who didn’t get it …) and a 104 fever?  Yes, she did.  The TV ran constantly as I took care of her and tried to entertain a 5-year-old cooped up, little boy.  Whew!  But then she was better and we were off!  We swam and played in the pool and took a day trip to Legoland, which was much less crowded and very much our speed.  And yes, if you happened to be at the Orlando, Florida airport this past weekend, that was me crying in line as my children were not behaving at all.  Nor were they listening to me when we were about to get on the plane to come home.  But they are kids, and I was a tired mom.  And that’s life.

When we were at Legoland, I met a very inspiring woman from England.  She was a mom of FOUR boys, ages ranging from 2-10 and was single mom-ing it for two weeks in Orlando with her boys.  Two weeks, people!  Alone with FOUR young boys!!!  Taking them to all the Disney parks!!  ALONE!!  This is when it dawned on me that most mothers are like Jedi-Masters.  When I look at my friends, one with a painful ulcer and not one complaint as she wrangles her two little ones, two who have dealt with breast cancer, are still smiling and being the most excellent moms, and so many others with hardships under the surface and being the best they can be.  We are seriously Jedi-Masters!  We are training a small force of Jedi-knights and doing it with love and grace while carrying our tragedies along and getting through and beyond.

I’ll be back here soon to show you some great tops I sewed for our trip and discuss the patterns with you.  Now go make yourself a cup of tea!

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5 Responses to Single Parenting

  1. Kim S. says:

    May the power be with you! and when it’s not, know there are many shoulders there for you to cry on & kids who love your kids 🙂

  2. Kerrin says:

    Kim. You are so incredibly strong and such a wonderful mom. Despite all you are going through, you hold your head up and move forward, always keeping the best interests of your children as your top priority. Glad to hear that you are committed to taking time for yourself, too, as that is SO important. Don’t forget that there are lots of us who are happy to help with the kids, so you can continue to take the time you need to process and enjoy time alone doing whatever makes you happy. Much love and strength to you, mama. XO

  3. Dear beautiful, talented, bright, feeling, warm, strong Kim. You have such heart and soul. You are a true seeker with all the right priorities. I love you so much!!! Give those two little nuts a hug for me, and then an extra big one for you! We woman are in this together. Let’s not ever go alone!
    Love you today and every day!!!
    XO Barb

  4. Lisa says:

    I’m so sorry, Kim. That sounds incredibly hard. I hope to see you soon and give you a big hug.

  5. joanne says:

    “She stood in the storm, and when the winds did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails”. You are indeed a Jedi-Master, Kim. Strong, patient and real.

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